Category : Romance and Relationships
Blog 12
That's Life. A Dedication.
I'd planned to tell you of the non-stop weekend events I'd experienced starting Friday, with The Happy Hour party (that was a smashing success, by the way). 🍹🍷🍻 Friday was filled with eating, drinking, badly-executed karaoke (mostly by me🎤 😆) and dancing until my back hurt. Then Saturday's events included more "ex drama", more eating, more drinking, flirting and more dancing until my back hurt! Even with all the good fun I'd experienced this weekend, I decided that I want to talk about something else entirely. I want to dedicate this entry to a smart, beautiful young woman that is having some difficulty getting through the demise of a recent relationship. She touches me because she reminds so much of myself when I was her age (early 20 something). She's experiencing all the hurt, hopelessness and helplessness I felt when I couldn't 'make things right' with that man that I loved. I want to tell her it's okay to cry and scream and feel everything she's feeling. I remember the days when it was almost impossible to get out of bed, brush my teeth or even wash my a*s! I want her to know that though it doesn't feel like it, things will work out exactly as they should for her, good things. I want her to know that as cliche as it sounds, these experiences are absolutely invaluable. I also want her to know that though it's hard right now, these confusingly hurtful times will help mold into the wonderful, strong woman she will be. I'm telling her (and you) that I did horribly desperate and sad things to make "him see me" but now, I truly appreciate those horrible and sad things. If I hadn't grown to appreciate and learn from those horrible things in my past, I might have become a pathetically passive woman that just accepts the bare minimum (or a mere fraction) of what I know I'm worth. Sure, at times it seems like battling the other woman for "your man" seems logical and almost impossible to resist. Then, you grow realize that if you are truly a good person and you understand your worth,YOU are the one worth battling over. You may ask (sarcastically ), "Okay Chauny, since you're so smart, just how does a person get through this?" Well, if you believe in a higher power, praying always helps. But if you want a more tangible answer you can sink your teeth into😁, it's this...time. Do things, anything to occupy your time, even if it's hard as hell for you to do. Go out, be with your friends, laugh, dance, flirt and be cute. And on those days when being by yourself is your only option; sleep, rest, cry, scream, talk to yourself, be yourself and before you know it, time passes and the hurt is a little less. Undoubtedly, they'll be occasions when those thoughts of this person, you so desperately want, will pop into your head. But as time goes on, those occasions become less and less. I swear! I've had the benefit of counseling with my beautiful sister and gorgeous mother when I couldn't get through things on my own. I've cried in their arms and snotted on their shoulders and they helped me get through it. 😭 I've actually vomited at thoughts of being without that man or him being with someone else. No joke, there were times that I thought my heart would actually burst from sadness! I want her to know (and she may already know it), that when things get too hard to deal with by herself, she has people that she can cry to and snot on and that's a very good thing. I have no doubt that this man she loves right now, either knows her value and is praying she doesn't see his or he will see her value, after he can be of no use to her (believe me when I tell you he was very heartless and immature in his treatment of this woman). I just hope that when he does "see her", which will inevitably happen, she knows her own value and decides she deserves better. However, like I told her, she may need to go back a few times (and bump her head) to realize the "real deal". Eventually, she'll get better and wonder what the hell she was so upset about or why the hell did she want him so badly in the first place? And it'll become a funny thing that she'll tell her friends or the next young woman that's going through the same thing. As I stated before, this entry is dedicated to her alone. For the 'official' record, my pearls of wisdom🤍⚪ are for her, not for ANY of my exes because I think they should spend the rest of their lives pining for me. What can I say? That's Life!
Posted : 2006-08-21 11:48:00 AM Created : 2006-08-21 01:14:00 PM Visible to : Public
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