Category : Romance and Relationships
Blog 19
Generic Relationship Ramblings...
The weekend was far from uneventful. Friday, I went and saw a friend in a play (he was EXCELLENT by the way). That day, I was feeling lazy and less than enthusiastic about going but once I got there, I really enjoyed myself. Then begins Saturday. Leaving out all the mundane weekend details, I'll just say that I had interesting 'interactions' with my last two exes (they just keep coming back huh?) And some warm fuzzy feelings, with regard to my new friend. I must confess that the most interesting stuff happened VERY early Saturday morning though. That's when the relationship drama began to unfold. At almost 7A on Saturday, I get a call from my ex. 📱😐 Keep in mind, this is the ex that I hadn't actually spoken with since maybe July.(?) For a few months now, I hadn't been accepting any of his calls and he hadn't been leaving any voice mails. He'd go nuts calling over and over (with maybe a minute in between each call) and then, after getting no reaction from me, he'd stop for a few weeks. Well Saturday, with an equal mix of sleepiness and curiosity, I decided I would go ahead and answer his call. I simply said, "hello" with that gravely "morning" voice you'd expect from the very first words spoken that day. 🥱 From there, there was a volcano of words (apologies and sweet, unsaid sentiments) spewing from his mouth as if he expected me to hang up on him mid-sentence (I'd done it many times before). He was going a mile a minute assuring me that he knew it was all his fault and that he'd never cared about anyone the way he cared for me and that if he'd demonstrated more patience with his anger (attitude problems) he feels certain things would have worked out differently for us. I told him it wasn't just one incident that made me feel differently about him. He said he knew that and he wishes there was a way to take it all back and start over. He asked me if it'd be okay for him to call me. I told him that I'd prefer to call him (not the other way around). He then asks me if I'd actually call him. I told him that I didn't know. I'm thinking, Dang! I just answered the phone (after all these months) and listened to your volcanic verbal diarrhea and you're already trying to boss me around (again)! He can't just let things go at a purposely decelerated pace, he wants answers NOW, which I don't have to tell you was part of the problem in the first place. Even after telling him that I didn't want him calling me, he didn't wait a whole day before he started calling anyway. First, he called a few hours later while I was having a nice, pleasant visit with my mommy. Then he calls later that evening (from a number I didn't recognize but I knew it was him). As a matter of fact, being at work just 2 hours, he called three times! Now I ask you, does this situation have all the trappings of a Happily Ever After ending? I think not! I haven't actually talked to him yet (since early Saturday) but I think I'm going to reiterate that he's coming at me too fast. I'm going to tell him the truth, that I'm not ready to go back to him and I'm not sure I ever will be. Frankly, dealing with him is exhausting and I just don't have the spare energy to deal with him right now. Then, Saturday evening, I saw my 2nd ex. 🙄 He hadn't been 'at my spot' for a few weeks so I figured he found some other place to hang out. This was the one from my Chauny, You're a Real B*tch! blog entry, the one that needed to be harshly kicked from my inner circle. Anyway, I saw my ex's best friend come in, so I knew he'd be close behind (he was). His best friend came up to me and my sis to exchange hugs and pleasantries. My ex didn't come over or say anything to me or my sis and pretty much kept a safe distance away from us. It was kind of sad the way he tried to look everywhere but in our direction. It was a real entertaining show though! 🤭 About 45 minutes after them coming in, his best friend came up to me with a very serious look on his face and asked if he could talk to me about something important outside. I'm thinking, 'Crap, is he going to get on my case for being unfair and heartless? I feel a definite relationship lecture coming on!' Anyway, he asked me to sit down and told me he wanted a woman's point-of-view about something he was going through. Whew! He asked me if I remembered him talking to me about this girl he used to date. I tried to be polite as I told him I didn't think I did (it turns out he spoke to my sis about it). Anyway, I listened and gave him my best woman's advice. We talked for about 15/20 minutes and as we got up to go back in the club, he tells me, "You know Chauny, I don't know what happened between you and him (my ex) but he really messed up!" He goes on to say that he thinks I'm very attractive and intelligent and he can't figure why (he) would want to mess up what we had. I hugged and thanked him for his kind words and I walked back in with him. I'm thinking he and his best friend 'had words' later that night because they both left about 20 minutes after we came back in. The best friend didn't come by to tell us he was leaving (which he'd always done before) so I figure they left rather abruptly. My sis thought that maybe my ex thought the best friend was going to talk to me on his behalf but when he found out it was for his own personal issue, he was probably a little pissed. Honestly, I don't think the best friend even really wanted my point-of-view, I think he just wanted me to know that he didn't want to be kicked out (of the inner circle) because of what happened between me and you-know-who! It made me feel good. It made me feel like someone really appreciated my 'uniqueness' and eccentricities (or weirdness). 👽 Anyway, I see from the length of this that I'm rambling again...with no discernible point. Sorry about that! So, I better cut this short (too late). More to come...promise. 🤚🏾
Posted : 2006-09-20 01:50:00 PM Created : 2006-09-20 02:31:00 PM Visible to : Public
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