Originally Posted : August 15, 2006
Category : Romance and Relationships
Blog 10
You're A Big-Gummed Old Maid, Chauny!
Hello All! I started to begin this with...yesterday was uneventful...but I remembered some things that happened yesterday that I want to share with you. Mostly having to do with insults I received from a couple of members of BlackPlanet. Probably, a lesser woman would be afraid to share this with you but we're all family here right? First, a guy that I had exchanged only a few friendly notes with, suggested we get together since my desire to be to myself would get old. I told him it never really gets old, I just forget to appreciate it sometimes. I told him when I got ready, I would do exactly as a felt but right now, I was just online to meet some cool people and have fun. Straight-forward and polite enough, right? He went on to insinuate that I must not be happy being single because he didn't know any women over the age of 25 that were happy being single. He also said that in the past 11 years, he'd only had two serious relationships and he was happiest being with someone. He couldn't understand why someone would choose not to have someone to come home to every night. He also went on to say that I must be single because I was horribly scorned or I had an (unfulfilled) desire to date women instead. See how small-minded and obtuse people can be? See how people want to"project"/suggest a flaw in you because you either aren't interested in them (romantically) or they don't follow/understand your philosophy? This guy was marginally attractive and I would've considered dating him if he weren't so 'online aggressive' and a relationship bully. The discussion got way too intense for a casual online exchange. He accused me of it but it was apparent he had some unresolved relationship issues he needed to work through. I could tell that in both the relationships he spoke of (in the past 11 years), he was the one that was left (probably for other women). Secondly, a less than attractive person wanted to know how I would have the nerve to be so picky, considering the size of my smile (gums in particular)! It happens all the time, when men read my page, they get very offended when they don't possess the physical characteristics I desire in a man. They lash out and get defensive. These are only my preferences people! I don't get mad if a man prefers a shorter, taller,& thinner, whiter or prettier woman than me, that's completely up to him. I would never begrudge someone their desires/preferences simply because I don't possess them. In this case, when I went to click on his page, I saw the real source of his pain. He was very unattractive (I never mentioned being attractive as a prerequisite) and only 5'4"! 🤏🏾 I politely wrote him back and told him his crack about my (gummy) smile was pretty funny...especially coming from a Oompa Loompa Munchkin like him! 👀 I also politely suggested he remove his page from BlackPlanet.com and start a profile on MidgetPlanet.com instead! No offense to all the vertically-challenged men out there (I really do have love for y'all), but this guy had it coming! I knew I hit a nerve because he quickly signed off the site. I believe, and what he failed to realize is, that if he'd found me unattractive, he wouldn't have been so angry (that's the impression he left anyway). But the fact that he needed to sling an insult at me, advertised how inadequate he felt about himself. And if he hadn't been so rude to me, I wouldn't have reminded him of his obvious...umm...short-comings. 🤭 So, his day was ruined, by a very nice woman he didn't even know. Lastly, I want to communicate another frequent and bizarre occurrence. I want to first say that I think most people are looking for love or at least, contentment in existing or prospective new relationships. But I think it's an absolute turn-off when men include the words relationship, love or marriage on their VERY FIRST online message(s) to you. I would venture to guess that most sane women are as unattracted to that, as most men are. I think most women want a regular-paced evolution from friendship to relationship. That's just my opinion but I'm sure that there are a lot of wanna-be Bridezillas out there that would disagree with that assessment.
Posted : 2006-08-15 08:13:00 AM Created : 2006-08-15 11:00:00 AM Visible to : Public
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